Abstinence, safe sex & abstinence education and information on STDs & condoms. Site encourages virginity & provides information on sexually transmitted diseases including AIDS, chlamydia & gonorrhea.

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Blount Nurses for Health Education, Inc.
Maryville, Tennessee


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Abstinence, safe sex & abstinence education and information on STDs & condoms. Site encourages virginity & provides information on sexually transmitted diseases including AIDS, chlamydia & gonorrhea.




Who we are

Blount Nurses for Health Education, Inc. (BNHE) is a non-profit organization based in Blount County, Tennessee. BNHE’s motto (professionals dedicated to providing vital medical information for healthier lives and better choices) summarizes our organization.

We have witnessed hundreds of young people’s lives permanently ruined because of poor decisions in their teen years for a few minutes of sex. These permanent life changes have included:

  • INFECTIONS, which leave people unable to have children later in life (examples: chlamydia and gonorrhea);
  • INFECTIONS, which cause symptoms years after the initial exposure (examples: herpes and HPV-associated cervical cancer);
  • INFECTIONS, which cause death (examples: AIDS and hepatitis);
  • PREGNANCIES, which leave young women agonizing over whether to:
    • Become unmarried single moms, typically living in poverty and giving up any plans to go to college, or
    • Kill their unborn children, through abortions; and
  • GUILT, by having cheapened the sexual union between husband and wife through misuse of the greatest gift a person can give his or her spouse on the wedding night— purity and totally committed love, with no remorse or emotional baggage.

The government and the news media have tried to sell young people on “safe sex” through condom use. These programs have failed. Health officials and more and more young people now realize that the ONLY complettely safe sex is sex between a man and woman who share a truly monogamous marriage (a marriage in which each partner is sexually faithful to the other).

BNHE presents scientifically correct, no-nonsense, completely true and accurate medical facts to junior high school and high school students in Blount County schools and churches. Read our Web site carefully. Contact us, if you have questions. Our only agenda is the physical and emotional welfare of young people in our county.

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How to contact us

By telephone:
   681-4314 (area code 865)

By mail:
   Blount Nurses for Health Education, Inc.
   476 Ellis Avenue
   Maryville, Tennessee 37804

By email:
   director

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NOTE: We will read all messages. We regret, however, that we may not be able to answer all correspondence.

We do not provide medical advice. We do not attempt to diagnose any condition. We do not recommend any treatment. For medical advice, consult a healthcare professional.

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Messages from you: Message board
Messages we have received and are waiting to receive from you

Messages we have received: Following are edited messages typical of stories told by teenagers throughout our nation. Please read and learn from them.

If you would like to tell your story to others: Please send an email message to DIRECTOR and tell your story about abstinence, sex, sexually transmitted disease, unplanned pregnancy, or a related topic. It will help us if you will title your email message “Message Board.” By sending this message to us, you grant us the right to post your story. Do not reveal confidential information (such as, names and addresses). Your message will be held in strictest confidence. We will delete the message from our file after reading it. We will randomly assign a letter to your message as your signature. (This letter will not be the first letter of your real name.) We will not print names, cities, schools, or other items of identification. Do not try to match a story to someone you know. We receive emails from all parts of the United States and other countries, and it is highly unlikely you know the person who sent the message to us.

MESSAGE BOARD

FEMALE: PUTS GOD AND FAMILY BEFORE SELF
I am 15 years old and a very strong believer in abstinence until marriage. The main reasons I have chosen to stay abstinent are because I am a Christian and I have given my virginity to God until my honeymoon, and I am very committed to sticking to this; also, I want to make my parents proud, and I don’t want to disappoint them by getting pregnant or getting a disease. I would like my honeymoon to be something I can cherish instead of knowing I’ve been with someone else. Plus, I do not want a STD or anything of the sort. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now, and he, too, believes in abstinence. It’s very important to find someone who believes in the same thing as you and respects you for it, no matter how cute or sweet he is. I encourage all teens to stay abstinent because if you do, you will have a wonderful life and marriage and won’t ever have to look back on the past and think bad thoughts. Abstinence = happiness!
“Z”

FEMALE: FOUND LOVE FROM SOMEONE WHO RESPECTS HER
Hi! I’m 17 years old. I dated a guy I thought was “the love of my life” two years ago. He pressured me to have sex. I thought it was wrong, and I was afraid of getting pregnant. I refused. He broke up with me and started dating someone else. I was heart-broken. Six months after our breakup, I met “J.” “J” respected me, and said he would also save sex for marriage. I can’t tell you how happy we are. We’re perfect for each other in every way! We hope to get married some day. I’m so happy I’m saving myself for marriage. I don’t even remember “what’s-his name” now.
“K”

MALE: ABSTINENT AND TOTALLY ENJOYING HIGH SCHOOL
Hey there. Guys can practice abstinence, too. I am. And, I’m having a great time in high school and have a lot of friends of both sexes.
“C”

FEMALE: CAN NEVER BECOME PREGNANT BECUASE OF SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
I am not a teenager (I am 35 years old), but I want to tell you about myself. When I was in high school, I had a bad home life (abusive, drunken father) and low self-esteem. I was searching for “love,” wherever I could find it. I was very pretty, and boys flocked to me. I was flattered by their attention, and thought they “loved” me. I had sex with just about anyone who asked me out. I developed a sexual disease, but I did not know it then. Years later, I met “G.” He and I fell in love— this time true love! We married, and we are very happy. Ten years ago, we tried to start a family. After two years of trying with no success, I went to a doctor. She told me that an infection I had as a teenager had scarred my tubes and pelvis so much that I can NEVER become pregnant. I did not even know I had an infection while I was dating in high school. I have no idea which of my many dates gave it to me. “G” and I were lucky enough to be able to adopt a beautiful little girl four years ago, and we love her with all our hearts. But, I wish I had not mistaken “love” in high school and had waited for “G.” I made a mistake in high school that I will sadly remember all of my life.
“M”

FEMALE: TEENAGE PREGNANCY LIMITS PRESENT AND FUTURE PLANS
I’m a high school senior. I got pregnant before I was 14 and had my baby at 14. I never considered abortion because of my religious beliefs. I love my little boy and I’m so proud of him. But, I can’t tell you how hard it has been to attend classes, try to study some, and care for him. I can’t even think about going to college. My sister is a junior in my high school. I’m really happy she hasn’t gotten pregnant, but sometimes I’m jealous of her. She goes out on dates, attends games and proms, and does all of the fun things I should have been able to do, while I stay home taking care of my little boy. I lost my youth because of a few minutes I spent with a guy in the back seat of his car. He won’t even speak to me now! How I wish I could have those few minutes back so that I could have my youth back! Don’t make the same mistake I made! PLEASE!
“A”

MALE: FOUND RESPECT FOR YOUNG WOMEN (“SOMEONE ELSE’S SISTERS”)
I am a junior at ***** High School. I once was hooked on Internet porn. The summer before I started ninth grade, all I could think about was finding babes who would have sex with me. I heard your program in the ninth grade. It started me thinking. I have a younger sister, and I don’t want guys hitting on her. Any girl I would hit on is someone else’s sister. I decided to save myself for marriage. I hope there is someone out there who is saving herself for our marriage.
“T”

FEMALE: CONTRACTED GONORRHEA FROM AN OLDER MAN
Hi! I’m 14, but physically I look like I’m 18 or 20. Last summer I met a man who is 25. He showered me with attention and convinced me to have sex. (He knew I was only 14 because he joked about hoping I wouldn’t cause him to go to jail.) I was flattered that I was so sexually attractive to a man at my age. I started having severe abdominal pains. My parents took me to my doctor. I had gonorrhea! My parents were totally devastated. I was so embarrassed and hurt. My doctor thinks he started the antibiotic in time to prevent future complications for me. Oh, the man who “loved” me so much? He has moved on to someone else my age. My doctor told me that many of the young teenage girls he treats for gonorrhea obtained the disease from men in their twenties. I’m a lot wiser now. I date only guys my age, and I will not have sex again until I’m married.
“L”

FEMALE: DATE RAPED AFTER DRINKING BEER
I“m a high school senior. Last summer, my boyfriend and I went with several other couples to the lake. Some of the guys brought coolers of beer. I was curious to know what beer tasted like, so I tried a can. That can led to another and another… until I passed out. I woke up as my boyfriend was finishing raping me. I was too embarrassed to tell my parents or the sheriff. I have been depressed ever since the rape. I had always been a “good girl” and had planned to stay a virgin until marriage. My EX-boyfriend bragged to all my friends about having sex with me. I went from people thinking of me as virtuous to “easy.” I would never have had sex with this creep, if I had not passed out from the beer and gotten into a situation where I couldn’t control his sexual advances. I want to tell teens everywhere (especially young women)— do not use drugs and alcohol on a date. They cause you to lose control. You will do things to others or let others do things to you that you would never think of doing if you were sober. Believe me. I know from sad experience how this can happen and how a few cans of beer can totally wreck a life.
“M”

FEMALE: LOSING VIRGINITY IS HER WORST MISTAKE
I’m 18 years old, and a senior in high school. I support abstinence for many important reasons: it prevents STDs, pregnancy, and the biggest one is because premarital sex can ruin your emotions. I know because I was forced into losing my virginity when I was 15 years old. After I lost my virginity, I felt like I was already ruined. So saying yes was not hard for me any more. I had been told a lie! My boyfriend and I broke up after going out for nearly 3 years. I was so upset because he had taken the most special thing of mine, and I could never get it back. I became lonely and needy, so I tried to find happiness through other relationships. Every time I was with another person, I gave a part of myself away until I felt like nothing. I was searching for love in all the wrong places. Sex outside of marriage causes jealousy, anger, insecurity, resentment, and many other emotional problems— like depression! I know because I’ve been there.

True love is respect, trust, and understanding. If you have already lost your virginity, try secondary virginity. Please start over! You are Worth Waiting For! The Word of God says, “Behold, old things are passed away, all things are made new.” God made me a new person. He healed all the hurt inside of me. He can heal you, too!
“R”

MALE: TEENAGE PREGNANCY CAUSED HIM TO MARRY SOMEONE HE DID NOT TRULY LOVE
I am the father of a student who has accessed your Web site as research for a school paper, and I happened to see it. We live in a state other than yours, but I think you may be interested in my experience with teenage sex. I want to word this carefully so that my child will never know I wrote it to you. My wife and I dated casually in high school. We had a “one night stand,” and she became pregnant. I did the honorable thing and married her so that our baby would not be born out of wedlock. I had to cancel all my plans for my life after high school to get a job to support my family. I love my children dearly, and my wife is a good woman. But, my wife and I are not suited for each other. We have grown in different directions. Divorce is out of the question. We tolerate each other for the children’s sake, but I do not believe we love each other as we should. I think occasionally, if I had not had sex that night, I might today have a wife and job better suited for me. I just want young people to know that sex, love, marriage, and children should come to a person at the proper time in life, after careful thought and preparation. Please do not use my real name, if you tell anyone about me.
“X”

FEMALE: ADVICE FROM A HIGH SCHOOL SENIOR
In my eighteen years, I’ve only had a handful of boyfriends. Having a boyfriend was not the most important thing in my life. I am my own person, and I have had time to grow and learn more about being me. I remember times I wanted a boyfriend— someone special to have as my own and someone who would listen to me. But, I—ve learned from experience that you can’t be searching for someone. You won’t find him if you’re looking. He only comes along when you least expect it. But not having a boyfriend is not the end of the world. At times he can be a distraction. Don’t live your life waiting for someone else. Live your own life and get on track with what you want to do (and what God wants you to do), and he may just happen to come along some day.

Everyone knows dating can be fun. But it holds its share of heartaches. Some of my hardest days were after a breakup. A lot of pain is involved— and a lot of emotion (especially for girls). I found that the only thing that could get me through these times was God. I was so dependent on Him. Nothing else would have worked. In my dating relationships, I have never had a desire for sex. As a Christian I looked for other Christians who felt the same way I did and had the same morals. I’ve known since I was young that I wanted to wait until marriage for sex. First, I knew it was not in God’s will for me to have sex before marriage. He said it was wrong, and I wanted to stay in His will. Second, there are so many risks involved. Pregnancy, disease, emotional attachment— I couldn’t and still can’t handle these things. Third, I wanted to save myself for my future husband. I wanted to be able to give him something that I had saved for him and no one else. My marriage will be holy in God’s eyes because I have waited. This is the way He designed it.
“G”

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Problems associated with sexual activity outside of marriage

Why sexual activity only within marriage? Society and almost all religions have promoted sexual activity only within marriage for three reasons:

  • SAFETY: Sex in marriage is safer. No person should ever expect to contract a sexually transmitted disease (STD) in a truly monogamous marriage (one man and one woman, each faithful to the other). On the other hand, millions of persons contract STDs in this country each year because of sex outside of marriage (fornication and adultery).
  • PREGNANCY: Pregnancy within a marriage should be a joyous event, with both the father and mother awaiting the new arrival with pride, love, and hope. Pregnancy outside of marriage can be very troubling. The first decision of an unwed mother is whether to kill the unborn baby through an abortion. If the mother chooses against abortion and gives birth to the baby, the next decision she must make is whether to keep the baby or place him or her for adoption. If the baby is kept, the mother is often faced with fewer education opportunities, reduced income (often living in poverty and depending on welfare), and wrangling with the father over child-support payments.
  • FAMILY COHESION: Sex between husband and wife in marriage is the “glue” which binds the marriage together. The strongest marriages are ones in which husbands and wives truly love, respect, and remain faithful to their partners. In American society in which so many marriages end in divorce, all of us should desire to build strong, lasting families.

You, like most teens, are probably anxious to try sex. But, you can wait. Sex in marriage without guilt and disease, producing only wanted children at a time they can be afforded, is beautiful. This is the only sex for which you should settle because YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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Is there a problem with teen sex in Blount County?

The problem with teen sex in Blount County: Is there a problem with teen sex in Blount County? Most definitely, yes.

Blount County healthcare professionals (physicians and nurses) and public-health officials are alarmed at the large number of teens in this county who suffer the consequences of teen sexual behavior each year. Our county’s teens have a very high rate of problems arising from sexual behavior, and this rate is increasing.

We could fill this Web site with statistics. If you are more interested, the statistics are readily available for you. But, columns of statistics are boring. We look at each case of a bad consequence of teen sexual behavior as an individual needing love and help, not as a statistic. We look at you as someone we want to help avoid a life-changing mistake, not as a statistic.

Safe sex: America has spent billions of dollars over the past few years on a “safe sex” educational campaign. In many ways, this campaign has failed. Teen pregnancies, infections, abortions, and emotional damage are still extremely common and increasing in number throughout Blount County and America.

Smart people know that when something doesn’t work, something else needs to be tried. Smart people know that “safe sex” through condom use has many failures. Smart people know that the only truly safe sex, the only sex which has no failures, and the only sex that has no side effects is sexual abstinence until marriage. Teens practicing sexual abstinence until marriage do not become statistics in public health reports.

You’re smart enough to know that the only truly “safe sex.’ is abstinence until marriage. You’re smart enough to know that YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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Why You’re Worth Waiting For!

There never was, is, or will be another you: You’re unique. From the DNA sequences of your chromosomes to your fingerprint patterns, there’s no one like you now— and there’s never been nor will there ever be anyone like you.

A great gift: You, as a unique person, have been given a great gift. This gift is the ability to pass life, containing part of your unique nature, to the next generation.

This gift of sex and reproduction can best be appreciated and enjoyed if you share it with a spouse who has saved his or her gift of sex and love just for you.

The lie of popular culture: Popular culture may trick you into believing you should give away this wonderful gift by having sex before you are married.

Don’t fall for the lies of the popular culture. With premature use of your gift (engaging in sex before marriage), you can suffer serious consequences, such as teenage pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, permanent infertility and sterility, and emotional scarring.

The following two poems summarize attitudes about sex and marriage. In the woman’s poem, she succumbed to sex before marriage, and gained only heartache. In the man’s poem, he respected the woman he loved, and gained a lifetime of happiness.

A woman’s poem A man’s poem
I met him; I liked him. I saw her; I liked her.
I liked him; I loved him. I loved her; I wanted her.
I loved him; I let him. I asked her; she said No!
I let him; I lost him. I married her.
After 60 years, I still have her.

Don’t waste your gift: You’ll be in your twenties soon. Don’t waste your gift of love and reproduction in your teens on someone you won’t even remember in a few years. Wait for marriage before having sex. Sex, based on love in marriage, is worth waiting for. And, most definitely, YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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Practicing abstinence until marriage:
the beauty of virginity

What is a virgin? A virgin is a male or female who has never had sex.

There is no physical sign to tell if a male is a virgin. Many cultures have used the presence of a hymen (a crescent-shaped flap of tissue at the opening of the vagina) as a physical sign to prove that a female is a virgin. The absence of a hymen is not always a reliable sign that a female is not a virgin, however, because a hymen can be stretched or torn in ways other than sexual intercourse, or may be difficult to see in some females because it is small and underdeveloped.

Virginity- sexual purity of the body and mind: True virginity involves sexual purity of the body and mind.

If you save yourself sexually for your wedding bed, you will give your husband or wife something no one else in the world can have and something that shows the love you have for your spouse is unique and special. Your gift in marriage of yourself sets the high standard for behavior you expect for yourself and your spouse throughout marriage. If you and your spouse are virgins at marriage, there are no memories to compete with, no guilt, no remorse, and nothing to confess.

Popular culture would have you believe that there is something wrong with you if you remain a virgin— that you are frigid, or weird, or a prude. People who make mistakes in life tend to want other people to make the same mistakes so that they won’t feel alone. (“Misery loves company.”) If movie stars, musicians, and athletes are sexually promiscuous and have messed up their lives with a string of sexual conquests, they try to validate their own mistaken, twisted lives by convincing themselves and others that “everyone is doing it.”

Why virginity? Millions of teens who have been the victims of infections, unplanned pregnancies, and lifetimes of emotional distress testify to the lies of the popular culture.

Today, millions of teens throughout the country see through these lies and have learned from the mistakes of others. They choose to remain virgins (to remain sexually abstinent) until marriage.

This choice is a beautiful thing. If you have not started having sex, you can make this choice and experience this beauty in your own life. YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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Starting over:
the value of secondary (reclaimed) virginity

Mistakes- a part of life: Mistakes are part of the lives of every person who has lived in the past, or who lives now, or who will ever live. If you have made mistakes in your own life, welcome to the human race.

One of your mistakes may have been that you have been sexually active in the past, and you now regret it.

Solution for a past sexual mistake: There is a simple solution for you. Join the many thousands of teens throughout the country who consider themselves reclaimed (or secondary) virgins. These teens, recognizing the mistakes they have made, have determined from this time forward until they marry they will not have sex again. They have chosen abstinence until marriage and have reclaimed their virginity.

Virginity- reclaimed or secondary: Virginity is both physical and mental. You can’t undo past physical acts, but you can face the future with physical and mental purity.

When you reclaim your virginity by choosing abstinence until marriage, you immediately prevent any future exposure to unplanned pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), and the hollow despair and haunting memories of failed relationships. You free yourself from a great burden imposed upon you by sexual activity outside of marriage.

If you have been sexually active and reclaim your virginity, please visit a healthcare facility or the health department. You need a physical examination. You need a Pap smear to check for HPV infection. You may need other tests to be sure you do not have other STDs.

Then, enjoy life until you meet that special person you want to share your life with, because YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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What is sex?

What is sex? A very basic question needs to be answered: What is sex?

Sex is two people using the sexual organs of one or both persons to achieve a pleasurable outcome.

Sex involving a male and a female is called HETEROSEXUAL. Heterosexual sex is also called STRAIGHT SEX.

Sex involving two males or two females is called HOMOSEXUAL. Male homosexuals are commonly called GAYS. Female homosexuals are commonly called LESBIANS.

A person who has sex with both males and females is called BISEXUAL.

Sex generally is classified according to the organs involved:

  • VAGINAL SEX,
  • ORAL SEX,
  • ANAL SEX, and
  • MUTUAL MASTURBATION.

Any of these sexual practices can spread a sexually transmitted disease from one person to the other. A one-time sexual encounter, no matter how brief, is sufficient to spread an infection.

KISSING ON THE LIPS is not considered sex by most persons, although uncommonly could spread a STD.

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Safe dating suggestions

Suggestions for safe dating: These thirty-six suggestions for safe dating have been modified from recommendations developed by CHATT (Chattanooga Adolescent Awareness Team):

  1. Participate only in group and public dating, especially during your first few years of dating.
  2. Have specific date plans and alternative (back-up) plans. Never just drive around to see what happens.
  3. Tell your parents or other responsible adults where you are going on a date, with whom, and when you plan to be back.
  4. Associate only with people you know and trust.
  5. Develop friendships only with positive people.
  6. Check out the reputation of a future date before you accept the date.
  7. Check out your future date’s friends before you accept the date. Your date will certainly be like the people he or she hangs out with, and their goals and values may be much different than yours.
  8. Be selective. Don’t go out with just anybody. If you turn down a bad date, the telephone will ring again.
  9. Date people with goals and values similar to yours.
  10. Date only people very close to your own age. IMPORTANT FACT: One of the most common causes of teen pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases in Blount County is older males (in their twenties) dating younger females (in their mid-teens). Don’t be flattered. Instead, ask yourself: Why me? What’s he after? Why canƠt he attract someone his own age?
  11. Have your date meet your parents.
  12. Meet your date’s parents.
  13. Never be a “tease.” Most especially, never tease in unsure situations.
  14. Make sure your words and actions match. Avoid any double messages.
  15. Don’t be a “tension reliever.”
  16. Be truthful about what you want and don’t want out of a relationship.
  17. Stay vertical (seated or standing), never horizontal (lying down).
  18. Stay out of back seats of parked cars.
  19. Never be in a house alone with your boyfriend/girlfriend.
  20. Keep rooms well lit.
  21. Know it’s okay to walk away from a dangerous or uncomfortable situation.
  22. Always carry enough pocket change on a date to make telephone calls for help (parents, other relatives, police), if needed.
  23. Never drink alcohol or take other drugs on a date. Arrange for a safe ride home, if your date begins drinking or taking drugs.
  24. Don’t fall for lines.
  25. You don’t owe anybody anything— especially sexual favors.
  26. A male who loves and respects you will never ask you to prove your love. If you are asked to prove “love” through sex, get rid of this loser now.
  27. Know your personal strengths and weaknesses.
  28. Set your limits before you date.
  29. Communicate your limits before you date.
  30. Be assertive and uncompromising, when setting limits.
  31. Make up your mind firmly in advance that you will remain abstinent.
  32. Learn from your past mistakes and experiences.
  33. Set goals for your future.
  34. Maintain high self esteem.
  35. Remember that you are special.
  36. Remember especially that YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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Risk of STD related to number of sex partners

Dr. C. Everett Koop, former U.S. Surgeon General, said, “When you have sex with someone, you are having sex with everyone [he or she has] had sex with for the last ten years, and everyone they and their partners have had sex with for the last ten years.”

In other words, your present sex partner may have been infected by a former partner, who was in turn infected by a former partner, and so on. If you have found someone with whom you can experience casual sex without marriage, has this partner “slept around” with other persons besides you?

To better understand this problem, picture a tree. You are the trunk. Each of your sex partners is a different limb attached to you (the trunk). Each of your sex partners (the limbs) may also have had sex partners, which branch from them as limbs. Each of your sex partners’ former sex partners also have had sex partners (other limbs branching from them), and so on.

In this illiustration of the tree, one “bad” limb— one infected sex partner— may infect subsequent sex partners, passing the infection from limb to limb, until the infection reaches the trunk— you.

These former sex partners who may pass an infection to you are not necessarily bad or evil people. STDs do not always produce recognizable symptoms. A person may unknowingly infect his or her sex partner with a STD.

It is this silent passing of bacteria and viruses during the sex act that causes so many persons today to be infected with a STD.

If you have had multiple sex partners and your sex partners in turn have had multiple sex partners, you have been exposed to the sexual activity of dozens of persons, any one of whom may transmit a STD to you.

Some of these persons may also be involved in intravenous drug usage. Viruses may be obtained through the drug habit (contaminated needles), but passed to the next person through sexual intercourse.

What is truly “safe sex”? The safest of all sexual practice is:

  • You have sex with only one person— your husband or wife after marriage.
  • Your spouse has sex with only one person— you.
  • You and your spouse remain faithful to each other throughout marriage.
  • This plan of sharing sex only between husband and wife during marriage should prevent either from ever contracting a sexually transmitted disease; this plan demonstrates the value of abstinence before marriage and fidelity during marriage.

Is it time for you to take control of your future and prevent becoming infected with one or more STDs? You can do this by determining to remain a virgin until marriage, or to reclaim secondary virginity until marriage.

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EXPLANATION: In the following sections, we will discuss some of the symptoms that may be present in just seven of the more common sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). There are more STDs that we have not included. This discussion is for information only, and not for self-diagnosis. If you feel you have a STD, however, seek medical attention promptly.

Tables in the following discussion of STDs are color coded for convenience:

Symptoms which may be experienced by MALES.
Symptoms which may be experienced by FEMALES.
Symptoms which may be experienced by both MALES and FEMALES.
Symptoms which may be experienced by NEWBORN INFANTS (passed to him or her by an infected mother).


AIDS (acquired immunodeficiency syndrome) / HIV

AIDS stands for the acquired immunodeficiency syndrome.

What is the cause? AIDS is caused by a virus— HIV (human immunodeficiency virus).

How is it spread? HIV is spread by blood or secretions from an infected person coming into contact with another person’s skin or mucous membranes (surfaces of the body not lined by skin). HIV may be spread in any of these ways:

  • BY SEXUAL CONTACT: Any sexual contact which spreads infectious body fluids— whether oral, vaginal, or rectal; and whether male-to-female, male-to-male, or female-to-female— can spread HIV and lead to AIDS.
  • BY CONTAMINATED NEEDLES: Needles contaminated with blood containing HIV can spread HIV and lead to AIDS. An example is sharing contaminated needles for injection of heroin.
  • OTHER METHOD OF SPREAD: More rarely, HIV can be spread to healthcare workers through accidents in hospitals. HIV can be spread through transfusion of human blood and blood products (now very rare). HIV can be spread from an infected mother to her infant before or during delivery. A ONE-TIME contact is sufficient to become infected.

How common is it? The number of people infected with AIDS is increasing in Blount County. Throughout the U.S.A. and especially in some parts of the world (sub-Saharan Africa and southeast Asia), AIDS is rampant, causing epidemics which may virtually wipe out some countries.

What may be the symptoms?

MALES AND FEMALES (Partial List of Symptoms)
HIV, spread from one person to another, must enter the body through a break (cut, scratch, skin irritation, “sore,” needle stick) in the skin or mucous membrane (a surface of the body not covered by skin). HIV travels to local lymph nodes, where the virus begins reproducing itself. Early in the infection, there may be non-specific symptoms resembling influenza (“flu”) or infectious mononucleosis (“mono”). For a relatively long time, the virus remains latent (hidden), living and slowly dividing in the lymph nodes without producing symptoms. This latent period may last for seven to ten years in older children and adults, but is shorter in newborn infants and older adults. Slowly, the lymph nodes (which form a major part of the body’s immune system) are destroyed by this viral infection. As the body’s immune system becomes destroyed, HIV spreads through the bloodstream to other parts of the body. Symptoms of AIDS begin appearing. Because the immune system is significantly destroyed, the person is susceptible to a variety of infections, some a nuisance but others life-threatening. Cancers may develop, especially lymphomas (lymph node malignancies) and Kaposi’s sarcoma. As the brain becomes infected, approximately half of AIDS patients develop severe neurologic disease with dementia (loss of higher brain functions). Death occurs.


IMPORTANT: Representative symptoms are listed for information only. If infected, you may not have all of the listed symptoms, or you could have other symptoms not listed. Do NOT try to diagnose or exclude the diagnosis of AIDS on your own. Only a qualified healthcare professional can make this diagnosis. If you think you may have AIDS or have been exposed to AIDS, visit a healthcare professional promptly.

What is the treatment? There is no way of eradicating HIV from the body or of curing AIDS. Intensive (many pills each day) and expensive drug therapy may slow the progress of the disease.

What is the prevention? No AIDS vaccine is available. An AIDS vaccine may not be developed for many years, if at all. Prevention rests solely on personal responsibility:

  • Practice sexual abstinence until marriage.
  • Enjoy monogamous sex only in marriage (sexual activity only with a spouse whom you trust to be faithful).
  • Do not use illegal drugs by injection.

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Chlamydia
(pronounced kla-MID-ee-ah)

What is the cause? Chlamydial infection is caused by the bacterium Chlamydia trachomatis.

How is it spread? Chlamydial bacteria are spread from one person to another person, usually only by sexual contact. A ONE-TIME sexual contact is sufficient to spread the disease.

How common is it? Chlamydial infection is one of the most common STDs in America. More than 4 million new cases are reported each year, but millions of more cases probably are not reported. Chlamydial infection is extremely common in Blount County. This infection is a disease of young persons, with most cases occurring in the 15-25 year age range. Among sexually active teens, approximately 15 per cent of females and 5-10 per cent of males are infected. If gonorrhea is also present, the chlamydial infection rate is approximately three times higher. Many teens are asymptomatic (free of symptoms), and the infected person does not know to seek medical help, but he or she spreads the bacteria to sex partners and the damage to the females’s reproductive tract continues.

What may be the symptoms?

MALES (Partial List of Symptoms)
  • URETHRITIS, causing a discharge from the urethral opening in the penis and dysuria (painful or burning urination).
  • EPIDIDYMITIS (tenderness and swelling in the scrotum).
  • NO SYMPTOMS, but the male unknowingly transmits the disease to his sex partners.

FEMALES (Partial List of Symptoms)
  • CERVICITIS (infection of the cervix, which is the opening of the uterus).
  • URETHRITIS (painful or burning urination).
  • PELVIC INFLAMMATORY DISEASE, or PID (spread to the internal sex organs in the pelvis). PID causes SCARRING AROUND THE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS. When the woman later seeks to have children, she may have these complications:
    • INFERTILITY: (difficulty in becoming pregnant), or
    • STERILITY: (permanent inability to become pregnant), or
    • ECTOPIC PREGNANCY: (the fertilized egg implants in the fallopian tube, instead of the uterus. Ectopic pregnancy can lead to rupture of the tube, massive internal hemorrhage, death of the developing baby, and possible death of the mother. The problem must be treated by chemotherapy drugs or surgery.)
    • INFECTION OF HER NEWBORN INFANT: causing eye infection or pneumonia, if the infant is delivered through an infected birth canal.
  • NO SYMPTOMS, but the female unknowingly transmits the disease to her sex partners.

IMPORTANT: Representative symptoms are listed for information only. If infected, you may not have all of the listed symptoms, or you could have other symptoms not listed. Do NOT try to diagnose or exclude the diagnosis of chlamydial infection on your own. Only a qualified healthcare professional can make this diagnosis. If you think you may have chlamydia or have been exposed to chlamydia, visit a healthcare professional promptly.

What is the treatment? Antibiotics can effectively treat the infection. Early treatment is necessary to prevent lifelong complications.

What is the prevention? There is no vaccine for prevention. Prevention rests solely on personal responsibility:

  • Practice sexual abstinence until marriage.
  • Enjoy monogamous sex only in marriage (sexual activity only with a spouse whom you trust to be faithful).

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Genital herpes
(Herpes genitalis)

What is the cause? Genital herpes is caused by a virus, herpes simplex virus, type 2 (HSV-2). [NOTE: HSV-2 generally causes infections below the waist. A related virus— herpes simplex virus, type 1 (HSV-1)— generally causes infections above the waist, usually of the lips and mouth. HSV-1 infections— usually fever blisters or cold sores— are NOT considered sexually transmitted diseases, although they can be spread by kissing someone with active sores or blisters.]

How is it spread? HSV-2 is spread from one person to another:

  • BY SEXUAL CONTACT (in older children and adults).
  • BY BEING DELIVERED THROUGH AN INFECTED BIRTH CANAL (in newborn infants).

A ONE-TIME sexual contact is sufficient to spread the disease.

How common is it? Genital (sex organ) herpes, caused by HSV-2, is common in America and in Blount County. Approximately 2 per cent of young persons and middle-aged women and up to 10 per cent of homosexual men are infected with HSV-2. Genital herpes usually begins in young adults, but reappears throughout life at all ages.

What may be the symptoms?

Genital herpes exhibits varying degrees of symptoms based on stages:

MALES AND FEMALES: PRIMARY STAGE (Partial List of Symptoms)
Any body site may become infected. In males, the penis is usually infected; in females, the cervix (opening of the uterus) is usually infected. Any break in a body surface (skin or mucous membrane) permits the virus to enter the body. At first, there may be fever, headache, malaise (sick feeling), myalgia (muscle pain), and lymphadenitis (painful lymph node enlargement). In the skin, blisters develop, which become crusted before disappearing. In mucous membranes, painful ulcers develop.

MALES AND FEMALE: LATENT STAGE (Partial List of Symptoms)
“Latent” means “hidden.” As the skin and mucous membranes heal, the virus travels along nerves, where it remains for the rest of the person’s life, ready to cause a recurrence at any time.

MALES AND FEMALES: RECURRENCE (Partial List of Symptoms)
“Recurrence” means “re-appearance.” Due to some event (for example, trauma, fever, menstruation, ultraviolet light exposure, sexual intercourse, or emotional distress), the virus moves from the nerves back onto skin or mucous membrane. During this time, the person may have no symptoms, but may unknowingly spread the virus to unsuspecting sex partners. Or, the person may have another bout of blisters and ulcers. Some persons have several recurrences per year.

NEWBORN INFANTS (Partial List of Symptoms)
An infected mother may transmit the virus to her newborn infant as the infant passes through the birth canal. The newborn infant may develop HSV encephalitis (brain infection), a most serious condition from which 90 per cent of the infants die.

IMPORTANT: Representative symptoms are listed for information only. If infected, you may not have all of the listed symptoms, or you could have other symptoms not listed. Do NOT try to diagnose or exclude the diagnosis of genital herpes on your own. Only a qualified healthcare professional can make this diagnosis. If you think you have genital herpes or if you have been exposed to herpes (especially if you are pregnant), visit a healthcare professional promptly.

What is the treatment? There is no cure for herpes, but medication may reduce the severity of recurrences.

What is the prevention? No HSV vaccine is available. Prevention of genital herpes rests solely upon personal responsibility:

  • Practice sexual abstinence until marriage.
  • Enjoy monogamous sex only in marriage (sexual activity only with a spouse whom you trust to be faithful).

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Gonorrhea

What is the cause? Gonorrhea is caused by a bacterium, Neisseria gonorrhoeae.

How is it spread? The bacteria are spread to males, females, and children almost always by sexual contact. The bacteria are spread to newborn infants during delivery, as they pass through infected birth canals. A ONE-TIME sexual contact is sufficient to spread the disease.

How common is it? Gonorrhea is very common, both in America and in Blount County. Hundreds of thousands of new cases occur in this country each year. Gonorrhea most commonly occurs in young people. Females are infected more commonly than males.

What may be the symptoms? Any mucous membrane may become infected, and symptoms depend upon which body site is infected. The most common symptoms are:

MALES (Partial List of Symptoms)
  • URETHRITIS (infection of the urinary passageway in the penis), with purulent discharge (pus) dripping from the urethral opening on the penis, and dysuria (pain or burning sensation during urination).
  • ANUS/RECTUM or PHARYNX (THROAT) INFECTIONS may occur, producing symptoms of inflammation (for example, tenderness, pain, and redness).
  • OTHER (arthritis or skin rash may occur).
  • NO SYMPTOMS, but the male unknowingly infects his sexual partners.

FEMALES (Partial List of Symptoms)
  • CERVICITIS (infection of the mouth of the uterus, or womb), with purulent vaginal discharge (pus) and severe tenderness.
  • URETHRITIS (infection of the urinary passageway from the urinary bladder), with dysuria (pain or burning during urination).
  • INFECTION OF EXTERNAL GENITAL ORGANS (Bartholin’s or Skene’s glands), with redness, swelling, and pain.
  • PELVIC INFLAMMATORY DISEASE, or PID (infection of the fallopian tubes and other sex organs in the pelvis).
    In the ACUTE PHASE, PID may cause:
    • Severe pain, fever, and other toxic symptoms, including abscesses around the tubes and ovaries.
    In the CHRONIC PHASE, PID may cause:
    • INFERTILITY (difficulty in becoming pregnant in the future);
    • STERILITY (inability to ever become pregnant);
    • ECTOPIC PREGNANCY (the fertilized egg implants in the fallopian tube, instead of the uterus. Ectopic pregnancy can lead to rupture of the tube, massive internal hemorrhage, death of the developing baby, and possible death of the mother. The problem must be treated by chemotherapy drugs or surgery.)
  • NO SYMPTOMS, but the female unknowingly infects her sexual partners.

NEWBORN INFANTS (Partial List of Symptoms)
  • MISCARRIAGE (the infection causes death of the developing baby in the mother’s uterus);
  • PREMATURE DELIVERY (the infection causes the baby to be born too soon, which may lead to death of the baby, or cause birth defects, or require expensive hospitalization in a newborn nursery).
  • CONJUNCTIVITIS (infection of the newborn baby’s eyes).
  • DISSEMINATED DISEASE (spread of bacteria throughout the baby’s body shortly after birth).

IMPORTANT: Representative symptoms are listed for information only. If infected, you may not have all of the listed symptoms, or you could have other symptoms not listed. Do NOT try to diagnose or exclude the diagnosis of gonorrhea on your own. Only a qualified healthcare professional can make this diagnosis. If you think you may have gonorrhea or have been exposed to gonorrhea, visit a healthcare professional promptly.

What is the treatment? A properly chosen antibiotic can completely cure gonorrhea. You can be re-infected each time you are exposed to the bacteria in the future, however.

What is the prevention? There is no vaccine for prevention. Prevention rests solely upon personal responsibility:

  • Practice sexual abstinence until marriage.
  • Enjoy monogamous sex only in marriage (sexual activity only with a spouse whom you trust to be faithful).

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Hepatitis B, hepatitis C

What is the cause? Two types of serious infection of the liver may occur: hepatitis B, caused by the hepatitis B virus (HBV), and hepatitis C, caused by the hepatitis C virus (HCV).

How is it spread? Either type of hepatitis can be spread from one person to another in any of these ways:

  • By sexual contact: Any sexual contact which spreads body fluids— whether oral, vaginal, or anal/rectal; and whether male-to-female, male-to-male, or female-to-female— can spread either HBV or HCV and lead to hepatitis.
  • By contaminated needles: Needles contaminated with blood containing HBV or HCV can spread the virus and lead to hepatitis. An example is sharing needles for injection of heroin. Other needles (tattoo, acupuncture, and ear-piercing equipment) may also spread HBV or HCV, if contaminated with the virus.
  • Other methods of spread: HBV or HCV can be spread to healthcare workers through accidents in hospitals (although most healthcare workers are given the hepatitis B vaccine). HBV and HCV can be spread through transfusion of blood and blood products (now uncommon). HBV and HCV can be spread from an infected mother to her infant before or during delivery.

A ONE-TIME contact is sufficient to become infected.

How common is it? Hepatitis is a major health problem. In America, 1.2 million persons carry HBV, and can infect others; up to 4 million persons carry HCV, and can infect others.

What may be the symptoms?

MALES AND FEMALES (Partial List of Symptoms)
When HBV or HCV infects the body, death of liver cells occurs. Symptoms depend upon how much of and how fast the liver dies and the body’s response to the liver death. Many symptoms may be present, and may be confusing even to a well-trained physician. Some persons have no symptoms at all; some, a mild “flu-like” illness; and some, acute hepatitis, with jaundice (yellow discoloration of the skin) and other symptoms of a severe infection.

Some persons with hepatitis recover completely. Some persons die with the infection soon after becoming ill. Some persons develop chronic disease, and may experience one or more of the following: becoming a carrier, always able to infect other persons; cirrhosis of the liver; bleeding from varicose veins of the esophagus, associated with cirrhosis; liver cancer; and liver failure, with death.



IMPORTANT: Representative symptoms are listed for information only. If infected, you may not have all of the listed symptoms, or you could have other symptoms not listed. Do NOT try to diagnose or exclude the diagnosis of hepatitis on your own. Only a qualified healthcare professional can make this diagnosis. If you think you may have hepatitis or if you have been exposed to hepatitis, visit a healthcare professional promptly.

What is the treatment? There is no specific treatment (such as an antibiotic), once hepatitis is diagnosed. A skillful physician can reduce symptoms and the severity of the disease.

What is the prevention? There is a vaccine against hepatitis B. There is immune globulin, which can be given early after exposure to prevent infection from that single exposure. Prevention rests upon personal responsibility:

  • Practice sexual abstinence until marriage.
  • Enjoy monogamous sex only in marriage (sexual activity only with a spouse whom you trust to be faithful).
  • Do not inject any substance into your body. Never use a shared or unsterile needle.
  • Become vaccinated with the hepatitis B vaccine. Follow up with a blood test to be sure you have developed protective antibodies. (Hepatitis B vaccine offers no protection against hepatitis C.)
  • Seek medical advice possibly to receive immune globulin, in case of recent exposure to hepatitis.

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Human papillomavirus

What is the cause? Human papillomavirus diseases are caused by a virus— the human papillomavirus (HPV).

How is it spread? HPV is spread from one person to another usually by sexual contact. Cells infected with HPV are shed from one person and picked up on the skin or genital tract lining of another person, causing that person to become infected also. An infected male or female may have living HPV for years without any symptoms, during which time he or she unknowingly spreads the virus to his or her sex partners. A ONE-TIME sexual contact is sufficient to spread the disease.

How common is it? HPV disease is one of the most common STDs in America and in Blount County. In America, approximately 1 million new cases of HPV infection are known to occur each year, but the true number of infections is probably much higher. Up to 30 per cent of females in some areas are infected with HPV, although many of them don’t know they are infected.

What may be the symptoms?

MALES (Partial List of Symptoms)
  • NO SYMPTOMS, but the male unknowingly spreads the virus to his sex partners.
  • VENEREAL WARTS, warts on the skin of the penis, scrotum, thighs, and anus. (NOTE: Certain types of warts that occur on the hand and elsewhere do not represent a sexually transmitted disease.)

FEMALES (Partial List of Symptoms)
  • NO SYMPTOMS, but the female unknowingly spreads the virus to her sex partners.
  • VENEREAL WARTS, warts on the skin of the genital tract (vulva), thighs, or anus or on the mucosa of the vagina or cervix (opening of the uterus, or womb). (NOTE: Certain types of warts that occur on the hand and elsewhere do not represent a sexually transmitted disease.)
  • CELLULAR ATYPIA, various cellular abnormalities diagnosed by Pap smear or colposcopy, in which cells of the lining of the birth canal become more and more abnormal and ultimately lead to cancer, if not treated.
  • CANCER OF THE CERVIX, VAGINA, OR VULVA, resulting from untreated cellular atypia.

IMPORTANT: Representative symptoms are listed for information only. If infected, you may not have all of the listed symptoms, or you could have other symptoms not listed. Do NOT try to diagnose or exclude the diagnosis of HPV infection on your own. Only a qualified healthcare professional can make this diagnosis. If you think you have been exposed to HPV, visit a healthcare professional.

What is the treatment? There is no easy cure, such as taking an antibiotic. Treatment depends upon removal of the HPV-infected tissue from the infected sex organ. Such removal may include surgery or destruction of the infected tissue by laser or freezing. Since the infection is chronic, multiple expensive treatments over many years may be required to prevent cancer. The treatment can cause a condition, called INCOMPETENT CERVIX, which causes the opening of the cervix not to be tight enough to keep the developing baby inside the uterus, and miscarriage (death of the baby) may occur.

What is the prevention? There is no vaccine for prevention. Prevention rests solely on personal responsibility:

  • Practice sexual abstinence until marriage.
  • Enjoy monogamous sex only in marriage (sexual activity only with a spouse whom you trust to be faithful).

Don’t risk a lifetime of HPV infection and its complications. YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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Syphilis

What is the cause? Syphilis is caused by a bacterium, Treponema pallidum.

How is it spread? In older children and adults, syphilis is contracted almost exclusively by sexual contact. In newborn infants, syphilis is contracted by the baby passing through an infected birth canal during delivery. A ONE-TIME sexual contact is sufficient to spread the disease.

How common is it? Syphilis is common in America and in parts of Tennessee, but is fairly uncommon in Blount County.

What may be the symptoms?

MALES AND FEMALES (Partial List of Symptoms)
Skin or a mucous membrane (a covering of any body surface not covered by skin) may become infected, if it comes in contact with syphilis bacteria. Because syphilis is a STD, genital (sex) organs, anus, mouth, and pharynx (throat) are infected most commonly. Syphilis begins as the primary stage, and, if untreated, passes into other stages. Symptoms depend upon the stage:
  • FIRST STAGE— PRIMARY SYPHILIS: Within two to three weeks of exposure, an ulcer of the skin or mucous membrane develops. This ulcer is called a chancre (pronounced, shang-kerr). The chancre causes no pain. If the chancre occurs in the cervix or vagina, the female probably does not realize she is infected. If antibiotic treatment is not received, the chancre heals by itself in three to eight weeks, but the infection passes into the next stage.
  • SECOND STAGE— DISSEMINATED SYPHILIS: Four to ten weeks after the chancre appears, a flat (not raised) skin rash occurs, which later becomes a raised rash. Individual lesions of the rash may measure up to an inch in diameter. The rash affects the skin of the body and extremities, including the skin of the palms of the hands and soles of the feet. If antibiotic treatment is not received, the rash disappears in three to twelve weeks, but the infection passes into the next stage.
  • THIRD STAGE— LATENT SYPHILIS: An untreated infection passes into a latent (hidden) stage. The infection may re-appear at any time during this stage. One-fourth of infected persons have their symptoms re-appear during the first year or two of infection.
  • FOURTH STAGE— TERTIARY SYPHILIS: An untreated infection causes a chronic syphilis infection of the nervous system (neurosyphilis), with devastating symptoms and impairment. Neurosyphilis develops within two to twenty years after the primary syphilis stage.

NEWBORN INFANTS (Partial List of Symptoms)
  • A mother infected with syphilis during her pregnancy may transmit the bacteria to her developing baby, with devastating results.

IMPORTANT: Representative symptoms are listed for information only. If infected, you may not have all of the listed symptoms, or you could have other symptoms not listed. Do NOT try to diagnose or exclude the diagnosis of syphilis on your own. Only a qualified healthcare professional can make this diagnosis. If you think you have syphilis or if you have been exposed to syphilis, visit a healthcare professional promptly.

What is the treatment? Antibiotics can successfully treat the infection. Early treatment is necessary to prevent serious complications, including neurosyphilis.

What is the prevention? There is no vaccine for prevention. Prevention rests solely on personal responsibility:

  • Practice sexual abstinence until marriage.
  • Enjoy monogamous sex only in marriage (sexual activity only with a spouse whom you trust to be faithful).

Don’t risk serious complications of syphilis. YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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What is “safe sex”?
The truth about condoms, contraceptive (birth control) medications, spermicides, and abstinence until marriage

How many times have you heard the term “safe sex”? If you’re like most teens, you’ve heard it so often you probably think you know what it is.

If you ask a group of teens what “safe sex” is, most of them will say that it is sex protected by a condom. This answer is wrong, but it’s understandable why they will give the wrong answer. Through a combination of political correctness, desire to use the most expedient method of protection available, and through ignorance, the government and the news media have spread the message that safe sex equals sex with a condom. This message is a misrepresentation. While sex with a condom is safer sex, it certainly is not completely safe.

While the government has been promoting the safe-sex-through-condom-use message, examine the statistics compiled by the same government. Following an intensive, multi-billion dollar federal government education campaign to persuade all Americans to wear condoms during sex, the following have occurred:

  • Sexually transmitted diseases in teens have continued to increase,
  • Pregnancy in unwed teens remains the highest of any developed nation on the world,
  • Death rates from AIDS spiral upward and out of control, and
  • The abortion rate remains alarmingly high.

The government can claim little success in its condom-use educational campaign. We won’t put all of the statistics here because they would fill up this Web site, but you know how to surf the Web. Check these statements out, if you don’t believe us.

There is only one way to be sure of safe sex. Practice sexual abstinence (don’t have sex) before marriage, marry someone you can trust, and demand that both of you remain faithful to each other during marriage.

Let’s summarize the ways suggested for safe sex:

SEX “PROTECTED” BY CONDOM
Birth control (contraception) Moderately effective. Frequent failures.
Disease prevention Moderately effective. Frequent failures.
Advantage Easily purchased. Relatively inexpensive.
Disadvantage Frequent failures due to tearing, slipping off, or leaking of the condom. May not be available with you on a date. Absolutely no protection for skin not covered by the condom sheath. No protection against secretions passed between partners during foreplay. Small viruses may pass through tiny defects in the latex.

SEX “PROTECTED” BY BIRTH-CONTROL (HORMONE) PILLS AND INJECTIONS
Birth control (contraception) Very effective. Few failures, if taken properly.
Disease prevention None— the purpose of this method is pregnancy prevention, and both the male and the female are fully exposed to infection during intercourse.
Advantage Reliable only as a birth control measure.
Disadvantage No protection against sexually transmitted diseases. Expensive. Requires prescription from a physician. Possible medical side effects.

SEX “PROTECTED” BY SPERMICIDES (NONOXYNOL-9)
Birth control (contraception) Relatively effective, if used correctly, but failures occur.
Disease prevention Unreliable (if pregnancy can occur with the use of spermicides, so can infections). Advantages: Can be purchased without a prescription, relatively inexpensive.
Disadvantage Protection against pregnancy and disease uncertain. May not be available with you on a date. Very messy.

SEXUAL ABSTINENCE UNTIL MARRIAGE
Birth control (contraception) Effective 100% of the time. No failures.
Disease prevention Effective 100% of the time. No failures.
Advantage Free— nothing to buy. Always with you on a date. No failures. When you marry: you have a clear conscience and freedom from guilt, shame, and bad memories. You have not ruined the ability for you and your spouse to have children.
Disadvantage None.

Compare the methods, and you’ll immediately recognize that sexual abstinence until marriage is the ONLY smart, safe sexual practice for you as an unmarried teen. YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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Reproductive impairment caused by STDs

STDs are spread by the act of reproduction— sexual intercourse. It should not be surprising that some STDs will interfere with your ability to bear children in the future.

The sad truth is that a thirty-minute sexual encounter in the back seat of a car with someone whose name you will not even remember next year can prevent you from having any children for the next thirty years. Thirty minutes of “fun” now in exchange for thirty years of heartbreak in the future— is it worth it?

The following are impairments of reproduction that may follow from some STDs:

  • INFERTILITY: Reproductive-tract scarring may cause a person, especially a female, to have extreme difficulty in achieving pregnancy when married. An infertile couple may need to resort to expensive medical procedures to implant a fertilized ovum (egg) into the wife’s uterus (womb).
  • STERILITY: Reproductive tract scarring may cause a person, especially a female, to be unable to ever become pregnant when married.
  • ECTOPIC PREGNANCY: Reproductive tract scarring may cause an ovum (egg) fertilized by the husband to implant in the wife’s fallopian tube, rather than the uterus. This condition is called “ectopic (or tubal) pregnancy.” An ectopic pregnancy cannot be successfully carried to term in a fallopian tube. After a few weeks of pregnancy, the developing baby and placenta cause the tube to swell to a size it cannot maintain. Like a balloon with too much air, the swollen tube suddenly ruptures (breaks open). A ruptured ectopic pregnancy is a true medical emergency. After rupture, the developing baby certainly dies, and the mother will die from hemorrhage unless she can be rushed to a hospital capable of providing emergency blood transfusions and immediate surgery to remove the ruptured, hemorrhaging tube. Ectopic pregnancy can also be treated without surgery, if diagnosed at a very early stage of the pregnancy. Non-surgical treatment requires the use of chemotherapy drugs and frequent blood tests to assure safety. Even with non-surgical treatment, the risk of rupture of the tube with life-threatening hemorrhage still exists.
  • MISCARRIAGE: A STD may cause a woman to have a miscarriage. STD infection of the developing baby may cause him or her to die in the mother’s uterus (womb), and the dead baby is expelled as a miscarriage. Also, repeated treatment of a cervical STD may make the cervix incompetent (unable to stay closed during pregnancy), and the developing baby is delivered many weeks too soon and dies.
  • INFECTION OF AN UNBORN BABY: A STD may infect an unborn baby, causing him or her to be gravely ill at birth or to die.

Don’t jeopardize your ability to become a parent in your future marriage. YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR! Also, your sexual actions today can deprive your future spouse of having children. YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE AND YOUR FUTURE CHILDREN ARE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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Role of alcohol and other drug use: Impairment of judgment

People use and abuse alcohol and other drugs because these chemical substances alter the way the mind (brain) functions. One of the mind alterations is impairment of judgment.

Males: With impaired judgment, a young man on a date becomes sexually more aggressive and may force sex— and, may even commit rape— which he would not do, if his judgment were not impaired.

Females: With impaired judgment, a young woman on a date may submit to sex which she would not do, if her judgment were not impaired.

Important warnings:

  • Date-rape drugs: Certain drugs, commonly called “date-rape drugs,” are used by some young men to cause their dates to loss consciousness, after which they rape their dates. These drugs can cause death or permanent brain damage. A young man responsible for using these drugs may be convicted of a felony— rape, with or without homicide, depending on the outcome— and may spend many years in prison. A young woman must always be aware of her company, should select dates of good character, and should never accept any beverage or food which she suspects might have a date-rape drug added.
  • Safety considerations: Even if date rape does not occur, an automobile driver impaired by alcohol or other drugs is definitely a safety hazard. You should never accept a ride, if the driver is impaired or under the influence of alcohol or other drugs. If your driver-date begins drinking or using drugs, call your parents, a taxi, the police, or someone else who can drive you home safely.
  • Legal defense issues: You cannot use as a legal defense that you caused a crime (rape, for example) because you had used alcohol or other drugs and were impaired. You are responsible for all of your actions, whether sober, drunk, or stoned. Also, think of your defense in court if you raped and possibly killed a young woman after mixing her soft drink with a date-rape drug. Do you think you can convince twelve Blount County jurors— most of whom are fathers and mothers— that giving the young woman an illegal drug to cause her to lose consciousness so that you could rape her was only a “boys-will-be-boys” prank and that you should not be sent to prison?

Don’t ruin your life or someone else’s life through the use of alcohol and other drugs. YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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Role of pornography (mind over body)

Someone has said that a human’s most powerful sex organ is located between his or her ears. That is, all sexual desire, all initiation of sex, and all refusal of or consent for sex begins in the mind (brain).

Pornography greatly increases the desire for sex. Visual images are especially powerful in causing a person to desire sex and even act out his or her desires by finding a sexual partner. Pornography’s relation to sexual behavior is a classic example of “mind over body.”

If you are truly serious about remaining abstinent until marriage, you should avoid pornography completely. Soft porn and hard-core pornography are everywhere— on the Internet, in movies, on television, in magazines, in music, and in books.

Avoid pornography, and you will find it much easier to remain abstinent. Do not let popular celebrities with low moral standards drag you down to their level because YOU’RE WORTH WAITING FOR!

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How to get medical evaluation and treatment

IF YOU SUSPECT YOU HAVE A SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE (STD), IT IS CRITICALLY IMPORTANT THAT YOU OBTAIN A DIAGNOSIS IMMEDIATELY AND RECEIVE APPROPRIATE TREATMENT. Prompt treatment of a STD may prevent serious, lifelong complications from developing.

These options are available to you in Blount County:

  • For free evaluation and treatment:
    • Blount County Health Department
      Call 983-4582, Monday through Friday, 8:00 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. Tell the receptionist that you think you may have a STD, and ask for an appointment. You will be evaluated by medical personnel, and will receive testing for gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, and HIV/AIDS. If a STD is found, you will receive treatment.
  • For evaluation and treatment at reduced fees:
    • Good Samaritan Clinic
      Call 983-9802. Tell the receptionist you think you may have a STD, and ask for an appointment. You will be evaluated by medical personnel, and, if necessary, receive treatment. Fees for treatment will be reduced, based on your ability to pay.
  • For evaluation and treatment at regular fees:
    • Call your personal physician’s office. Tell the receptionist you think you may have a STD, and ask for an appointment.

When you receive medical evaluation and treatment, all aspects of your visit are confidential (will not be told to your parents).

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Pregnancy

Pregnancy options: A common outcome of sexual activity in unmarried teens is pregnancy.

If you become pregnant, you have two options:

  • ABORTION: You may submit to an abortion, which means that your unborn baby will be killed and suctioned or scraped from your uterus (womb).
  • DELIVERY: You may carry the pregnancy to term and give birth to your child.
    After delivery, you have two options:
    • CHILD-REARING: If you keep your newborn son or daughter, you may rear him or her as if you were married. You should understand that there may be hardships, such as not choosing to go (or delaying to go) to college, reduced income, and the possibility of requiring welfare assistance. However, many single moms raise their children and make successful lives for themselves. IMPORTANT NOTE: If you do keep your child, consult an attorney (look in the yellow pages of the telephone book, if you do not know an attorney) to discuss the option of filing a paternity suit. Any male who fathers a child is legally responsible to assist with financial support of the child until the child is eighteen years old (or, in some instances, completes college).
    • ADOPTION: There is a shortage of adoptable children, and many wonderful couples would feel blessed to adopt your son or daughter. Your adopted child would be placed in a safe, loving home with parents who would love him or her as their own and who would provide all necessities, luxuries, and an education for him or her.

Pregnancy counseling: For help in diagnosing whether you are pregnant and counseling about options other than abortion, contact:

  • In Blount County: PREGNANCY RESOURCE CENTER:
    Call 977-8378.
    To read more about the Pregnancy Resource Center, contact:
    http://www.prcbc.com/; OR
  • Outside of Blount County: Consult the yellow pages of your local telephone book under “Abortion Alternatives” for your nearest pregnancy resource center; OR
  • Outside of Blount County: Contact PREGNANCY CENTERS ONLINE http://www.pregnancycenters.org/ for a list of pregnancy resource centers throughout the country; OR
  • For anonymous advice by telephone:
    Call toll-free BETHANY CHRISTIAN SERVICES: 1-800-BETHANY (1-800-238-4269); AND
  • YOUR PERSONAL PHYSICIAN for diagnosis and prenatal obstetrical care.

Assistance for unmarried pregnant teens: There is help for unmarried pregnant teens. The Florence Crittenton Agency, Inc., is a residential home where the pregnant teen can receive all medical care for her and her newborn infant through the University of Tennessee Medical Center, Knoxville; parenting classes; continuation of high school education; group and individual counseling, as needed; and drug rehabilitation, as needed. All room and board and medical care costs are provided. After your baby is delivered, you may keep your baby or you may place him or her for adoption. If needed, contact:

  • THE FLORENCE CRITTENTON AGENCY, INC., in Knox County:
    Call 602-2021.
    To read more about the Florence Crittenton Agency, Inc., contact:
    www.korrnet.org/fca

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Emotional consequences of sexual activity:
How to get help

Telephone numbers listed with the 865 area code are for agencies located in or around Blount County, Tennessee. If you live in another area, consult the local telephone directory for similar agencies.

Sexual matters may cause emotional distress: You may be hurting emotionally, feel guilty, or be depressed because you have had sex, are or have been pregnant, have had an abortion, have or have had an infection, or for other reasons associated with sexual activity. Such feelings are not uncommon in teens.

Don’t be ashamed that you have these feelings. But, don’t let them linger or worsen into something worse, such as thoughts of suicide. There are many people and agencies ready to help you right now. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. The main thing is get good help and get it immediately. Life is too good not to enjoy every minute of it.

Possible sources of help: We will not try to give you advice on how to handle your emotional distress, but we will suggest a few resources for you to receive help. You may think of other resources on your own.

  • PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS, OR OTHER TRUSTED FAMILY MEMBERS: Consider discussing your problems with a trusted family member. You may be surprised at the depth of unconditional love the relative has for you— love based on who you are, not what you have done. —OR—
  • SCHOOL RESOURCES: Consider discussing your problems with someone at school— a teacher, your principal, a school nurse, or a guidance counselor. These professionals deal with teens every day. They probably have already talked to and helped other teens with exactly the same problem you think is uniquely yours. —OR—
  • RELIGIOUS LEADERS: Consider discussing your problems with your minister (pastor), priest, or rabbi. Any conversation you have with your spiritual leader is privileged (that is, it will remain confidential and will not be told to your parents). You will find that men and women of faith believe that all persons are sinners and that God has provided us with specific ways for receiving forgiveness of sin. —OR—
  • PERSONAL PHYSICIAN: Consider discussing your problems with your personal physician. Any conversation with your physician is privileged (that is, it will remain confidential and will not be told to your parents). Your physician may be able to give you short-term medication to relieve your symptoms or provide or arrange for counselling. —OR—
  • COMMUNITY AGENCIES: Consider discussing your problems with agencies set up to help teens in distress. Some of these agencies— including suicide-prevention crisis agencies— are:
    • Emergency assistance: 911
    • Contact Ministries, Inc., Hotline: 523-9124 (Area code: 865)
    • Mental Health Center Crisis Hotline: 588-2936 (Area code: 865)
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Child support

WARNING FOR YOUNG MEN: If your sexual conduct results in your becoming the father of a child (even if you are under 18 years old when you fathered the child), the courts will require you to provide child support for that child until he or she is 18 years old (and in some instances until he or she completes college). Child support is presently 21 per cent of your income for one child, and more for two or more children. Modern DNA technology can prove without doubt whether you are the father.

ADVICE FOR YOUNG WOMEN: If you become pregnant, you will need financial support for your child. The law provides for child support and expects you to obtain this support from the father, rather than tax-supported welfare rolls.

  • PARENTAL GUIDANCE: Keep your parent(s) involved in events during this critical time of your life. You need love and support, as well as the advice of older, more experienced persons.
  • ATTORNEY CONSULTATION: Contact an attorney (yellow pages of the telephone book, if you do not know an attorney), who will file a paternity suit on your behalf. It is the responsibility of the father to support his child to the child’s maturity, unless he can prove his innocence through genetic (DNA) testing.

Legal financial assistance: If you do not have the money to pay for an attorney, contact the State of Tennessee Child Support Division. This agency can assist you in a paternity suit and in obtaining child support, at no cost to you. The telephone number of the Blount County Child Support Division office is 981-2373.

IMPORTANT: BNHE does not offer legal advice. Consult an attorney for legal advice and for any legal proceeding you may wish to pursue.

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Rape

WARNING FOR YOUNG MEN: You commit rape if you force another person to have sex with you against that person’s will. Rape can be committed against females or males. Rape can be committed with or without the use of a weapon. Impaired judgment due to the use of alcohol or other drugs by you or the victim is not a legal defense.

No always means no: If the person you want to have sex with says “NO,” you had better respect this protest. “NO” never means “YES” or “MAYBE” If you don’t understand the word “NO,” you may have many years in prison to think about what “NO” means. In prison, you may also have the opportunity of trying to convince your cell mate what “NO” means.

Prison sentence: Conviction of forcible (aggravated) rape can carry a sentence of 15 to 60 years in prison. Even if you are a minor (less than 18 years old), you can be tried as an adult and receive the full prison sentence.

Advice for a rape victim:

IMPORTANT: BNHE does not offer legal advice. Consult the district attorney general, in conjunction with a parent or both parents, for legal advice and for any prosecution you may wish to pursue.

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Date rape

WARNING FOR YOUNG MEN: You commit date rape if you force sex with a date, or with someone you know, or with someone you meet in a social setting (such as a party) against that person’s will. Date rape can be committed against females or males. Date rape can be committed with or without use of a weapon. Impaired judgment due to the use of alcohol or other drugs by you or the victim is not a legal defense.

No always means no: If your date says “NO” to having sex with you, you had better respect this protest. “NO” never means “YES” or “MAYBE.” If you don’t understand the word “NO,” you may have many years in prison to think about what “NO” means. In prison, you may also have the opportunity of trying to convince your cell mate what “NO” means.

Prison sentence: Conviction of date rape typically carries a sentence of 8 to 30 years in prison, but in some cases conviction may carry the full sentence of aggravated rape (15 to 60 years in prison).

Even if you are a minor (less than 18 years old), you can be tried as an adult and receive the full prison sentence.

WARNING FOR BOTH YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN: A male may mix a “date-rape drug” in his date’s drinks. These drugs cause the date to lose consciousness, at which time the male rapes his defenseless date. Unfortunately, the drugged date may die or sustain severe brain damage from the drug.

  • WARNING FOR YOUNG WOMEN: Don’t accept a drink or food from a date unless you are certain it is safe and you trust your date.
  • WARNING FOR YOUNG MEN: Putting aside issues of personal morality and concerns of safety for your date, think about your trial for date rape in which you have used a date-rape drug. Do you want to explain to twelve Blount County jurors— most of whom are fathers and mothers— that you thought it would be “fun” to slip a drug in your date’s drink so that she would become unconscious and you could rape her without her knowledge? Think which way the 12-0 jury vote will go!

Advice for date-rape victims:

  • Get to safety as soon as possible. Anyone who has raped you has committed a crime (a felony). You should seriously consider cooperating with full prosecution of the rapist. If you let the rapist “get by” with raping you because you know him, or feel sorry for him, or engaged in kissing or petting before the rape, or because you were wearing suggestive clothes, the rapist may become bolder and may rape others in the community since he was not punished for the first rape. Even if you were kissing or petting, your date must respect your wishes when you tell him the activity must stop and not proceed to sex. There is no excuse for rape, and a civilized society cannot permit rapists to roam the streets. Rape has nothing to do with love or sex. Rape is nothing but violence, hatred, lack of respect, and the need of a stronger person to control a weaker victim. Do not be ashamed to report the rape. The rapist has committed the crime. You, as the victim, have done nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of.
  • Report the rape immediately to law authorities and receive a medical and scientific evaluation for rape. You can withdraw your prosecution of the rape at a later date, if you wish, but you cannot obtain medical evaluation for rape at a later date.
  • Report the date rape to the local law authorities having jurisdiction where you were raped. If you are uncertain about the jurisdiction, choose one of the authorities you think might have jurisdiction. The officers will determine agency jurisdiction after you report the crime. See also How To Contact Others.
  • Collection of evidence for the rapist’s trial is critical. Especially critical is the collection of the rapist’s semen. Do not bathe or shower after the rape. Do not discard any condom the rapist may have used. Do not change your clothes or underclothes, especially your panties. Do not brush any of the rapist’s hairs, including pubic hairs, from your body or clothing. Do not remove any of the rapist’s skin fragments, if present, from under your fingernails.
  • Request that an officer meet you at or take you to a hospital emergency room. The officer’s presence will be needed to take direct custody (possession) of